why you should take up writing

 

I often find myself encouraging friends and random acquaintances to take up writing. I may have heard their stories over a glass of wine or a cup of good strong coffee, on a hike in the woods or along a riverbank, so I know they can do it. I nag them because I know someone who needs to hear their story. Someone recently diagnosed with cancer needs to hear from a person who has been through it. They need to know the diagnosis was devastating, the treatment grueling, the recovery painstaking, the victory glorious. If you're struggling to work from home while you school your children, or you're a caretaker for someone who isn't doing well, it helps to know how difficult it is for others in the same situation. How they cope. How they keep their spirits up.

"A day will come

when the story inside you

will want to breathe on its own."

~Sara Noffke~

I encourage people to write even though I know how hard it can be to get words on the page. To stick with it. To go back to it again and again. Like meditation, it can be hard to quiet your mind while sitting alone, in silence. Our minds like to be busy, thinking back on things that have happened, thinking ahead to what awaits us, guessing, planning, judging, fretting, when our goal is to stay focused on the work at hand.

In meditation, when our minds wander, we are encouraged simply to acknowledge the interruption and refocus, not to chastise ourselves for getting distracted, or berate ourselves for letting our attention wander. When unbidden thoughts arise, we label them "just thoughts" or "just thinking," and we move our attention back to the breath--in, out, in, out. Letting go of intrusive thoughts helps mitigate the impact of negative emotions such as anger, anxiety, bitterness, and resentment that may have a stranglehold on us.

"You should sit in meditation

for twenty minutes a day, 

unless you're too busy;

then you should sit for an hour."

~Old Zen Saying~

This, I believe, is a practice writers should embrace. We are accustomed to labeling our own negative thoughts as "voices" we hear. It's an interesting metaphor. We are advised not to pay attention to the voices of negativity that discourage our creative efforts. Voices that insist we're wasting our time, that we have no talent for this kind of thing, that we have no hope of success. Voices that make us feel inferior, or guilty for indulging in something we enjoy when others are so hard at real work.

"Tell the negative committee

that meets inside your head

to sit down and shut up."

~Ann Bradford~

The point is that those negative voices are just thoughts. Just echoes from the past, not worth arguing about. They are opinions, and they do not have your best interests at heart. Banish them! Return to the breath. Or take a walk. Or call up a friend, someone who encourages you, and supports your dream. Someone who understands how hard this is, and respects you for trying. Someone whose friendship isn't invested in your wealth or fame. 

Do whatever it takes to stay on the optimistic side. Do whatever it takes to tell your story. Turn your attention to the truth:   

"People start to heal

the moment they feel heard."

~Cheryl Richardson~

jan