Saturday, December 29, 2018

"look for the helpers"


 
Mr. Roger's mother got it right when she reminded him to "look for the helpers" when he saw scary things happening around him.

"When I was a boy and
I would see scary things in the news,
my mother would say to me,
"Look for the helpers.
You will always find people who are helping."
~Fred Rogers~


Helpers are especially important when bad news arrives around the holidays...when illness strikes, a loved one dies, a neighbor's house goes up in flames, or depression takes its toll.

Who are these helpers? How will we recognize them? Here are five sure signs you're looking at a helper:
  • Helpers meet trouble head on. Like deep winter snow, they go right out into it and plod through it just to help others through it, too.
  • They ask existential questions. Why? Why do bad things happen to good people?  Why now, during the holidays? They confront the ultimate mystery: why not? Why are any of us spared? 
  • Reflecting on the work they have chosen, they are grounded in empathy. They suffer right along side of the people they care for.  
  • The fact that they encounter suffering and understand what it's about solidifies their sense of purpose.
  • They consider service a privilege.
 
"The best way to find yourself
is to lose yourself
in the service of others."
~Mahatma Gandhi~


If you are a health care provider--a doctor or nurse, a nurse practitioner or a physicians assistant, an EMT, or a therapist of any kind--you are a helper. If you are a first responder, we depend upon your help. If you work as a caretaker, a teacher, or a pastor, you're a helper. If you are a parent or grandparent, you are definitely a helper. If you staff a food kitchen or a homeless shelter or an animal rescue, you are one of us. If you drive a snow plow, repair our roads, or haul away our trash, you are helping. What would we do without you? How would we get through the holidays? How would life go on?

Each of us is a helper in our own special way. We encounter each other every day at the intersection of give and take, of sorrow and joy, of pain and pleasure.

When you see scary things happening around you, do what Fred Rogers did when he was a boy. Look for the helpers...and remember that you are one of them, too.

"The world is full of
healers, helpers, and lovers.
If you can't find one,
be one."
~from Treehouse of Hope~
jan





Tuesday, December 11, 2018

when storytelling is a life-saving skill

 
 

The art of storytelling is as old as the spoken word. It’s an important part of every culture, race and religion. It entertains, informs, and connects mankind across time and space.

Most people enjoy reading or listening to stories at their leisure. The health care provider, on the other hand, listens to stories all day long because it’s part of his job. The first thing he does when he sits down with a patient is to elicit the history, or story, of the patient’s illness. It forms the basis of all that follows: performing the physical examination, arriving at a diagnosis, and formulating a treatment plan for the patient.
 
"Tell your story
with your whole heart."
~Brene Brown~

The health care provider listens for specific details that help him make the diagnosis. If the patient’s problem is pain, the provider needs to know where the patient feels it, whether it’s sharp or dull, steady or throbbing, constant or intermittent. He needs to know how long the patient has had the pain—for a day? For a week? For years? What makes it worse? What makes it better? For example, the pain associated with a migraine headache is throbbing whereas in a tension headache it is usually steady. Gallbladder pain can come and go for months whereas the patient with appendicitis has steady pain and usually seeks medical care within a day or two. These are important details.

The problem is that patients don’t know what the physician needs to hear. They don’t arrive at the office with a list of relevant signs and symptoms. It’s the provider’s job to ask about them, but he has only so much time to get to the bottom of the patient’s problem.
 
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For this reason, doctors often redirect the patient who appears to be getting off-track or is slow coming up with answers. In fact, one frequently quoted study found that most physicians interrupt and redirect the patient when they are as few as 18 seconds into the interview. Frequent redirection leads the patient to believe that what he wants to say isn’t important or relevant. Instead, he tries to give the doctor the information he needs while other parts of the story go untold.
 
Let’s say the patient presents with a three day history of abdominal pain. He answers all of his doctor’s questions. The pain has been present for four days. It started in his upper abdomen, but now it is diffuse. The pain is constant and it radiates into his back. Eating makes it worse. In fact, the patient says he hasn’t been able to keep anything down for the past two days. After a focused physical exam, and after running a few tests, the physician correctly diagnoses him with acute pancreatitis. But that doesn’t explain why the patient starts to complain of a headache, has trouble keeping his balance and appears confused twenty-four hours after being admitted to the hospital.

What the doctor doesn’t know is that the patient has been drinking heavily because his wife walked out on him recently. In fact, he blacked out a couple of days ago and he woke up on the floor next to the bed. The patient didn’t mention it because he was busy answering the doctor’s questions about his stomachache. So the doctor missed the small subdural bleed the patient sustained during the fall until days later when he finally developed symptoms.

This is a theoretical scenario but it highlights an important problem. Obtaining an accurate and complete medical history takes time. When the patient is constantly redirected in order to satisfy the provider’s agenda, important parts of the story may be left out.
 
"A layman will no doubt find it hard
to understand how pathological disorders
of the body and mind can be eliminated
by mere words.
He will feel that he is being asked
to believe in magic."
~Sigmund Freud~

This reinforces the importance of the hearing patient’s full narrative in medicine. Besides being a sign of respect and concern, the ability to listen to the patient can be a life-saving skill.
 
"Health care is supposed to build
on the patient's story with each contact,
but if we don't know the story
each contact becomes a closed episode
of its own, disconnected from
every other episode.
Fragmentation results as the outcome of a
non-storied approach to health care."
~Lewis Mehl-Madrona, MD~
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Sunday, December 2, 2018

what good is it to listen if no one is willing to speak?

 
If you didn't know better, you'd think there were fairies about.
 

How do you know if you have a story to tell? How do you know if someone else needs to hear it?

"You are so brave and quiet,
I forget that you are suffering."
~Ernest Hemingway~
 

Even though it may have taken place decades ago, it still comes back to you. It still brings a smile to your lips, or a tear to your eye, or an ache in your chest, or a momentary time-out during a busy day. It comes to you out of nowhere...when a certain song comes on, or you catch a whiff of rubbing alcohol, or the late afternoon light enters the room at a certain slant...the way it did when you were in the hospital as a child, or when you were sick or injured as an adult. Or maybe you're watching the news and you see you own story unfolding in someone else's life. You know how they feel and you know what they need because you once needed it, too. You are constantly reminded of the illness, or the injury, or the recovery that claimed a huge chunk of your life.

Maybe you wish you could forget it altogether. Or undo it. But you can't. It stays with you because it's an important piece of who you are today. It is your story begging to be told.

"I have learned now that while
those who speak about their miseries
usually hurt,
those who keep silence hurt more."
~C.S. Lewis~


Why would anyone want to hear your story when they are having problems of their own?

Because they want to know how you got through it. Were you in pain? How much weight did you lose? How much sleep? What brought you comfort? What gave you strength? Where did you find hope?

"Tell your story because your story
will heal you and
it will heal someone else."
~Iyanla Vanzant~

Your story may be full of pain. You may be mired in sorrow. It may be a triumph of healing, or an unending struggle. You may trivialize what you have endured in contrast with the greater suffering you witness in others. Don't let it shut you down. The rest of us need to hear from you. What good is it for us to listen if no one is willing to speak.
 
"Healing yourself is connected with
healing others."
~Yoko Ono~
jan


Monday, November 26, 2018

a story almost everyone can tell



 
 
The program in narrative medicine that was conceived, developed, and implemented at Columbia University under the leadership of Rita Charon, M.D., PhD. teaches medical students and residents to reflect upon and to write about illness as it affects their patients.
 

 
This goes beyond traditional training which is satisfied with an accurate diagnosis and an effective treatment plan. It involves so much more than clicking the bullets on an EMR. Exploring the patient's narrative provides insight into the ways illness/injury changes every aspect and every relationship in their patients' lives. Their sense of self. Their ability/inability to fulfill their perceived role in the family and in society as a whole. Their fears and sorrows. Where they find strength. What gives them hope. This process enables doctors to see their patients as more than interesting or challenging cases. Now they are tending the whole person--body, mind, and spirit.
 
"Stories are not material to be analyzed;
they are relationships to be entered."
~A.W. Frank~

 
This practice improves the physician's sense of engagement with his patients. It deepens empathy. It has been shown to improve physician satisfaction and to lessen the likelihood of burn-out.
 
"Writing improves clinicians' stores of
empathy, reflection, and courage."
~Rita Charon, MD, PhD~

 
But narrative medicine isn't just for doctors.
 
Everyone who works in a health care system carries untold stories with them. Nurses and aides, EMTs and first responders, and therapists in every field have important stories to tell. Even staffers such as receptionists, orderlies, and even maintenance and food service workers all have stories they could share with us.
 
"While medicine creates material
for writing, perhaps even more important
is that it also creates
a psychological and emotional
need to write."
~Daniel Mason~
 
But narrative medicine isn't just for them, either.
 
The book on narrative medicine begins with the patient's story...a story almost everyone can tell. If you have ever visited a doctor's office or an emergency room, or been admitted to the hospital, or been a caretaker for a friend or family member, reflecting on the experience can help you organize your thoughts about it. It encourages you to sort out and name your feelings about it. It clears away confusion, and that eases fear. When you tell your story and someone hears it, you both learn from it. When you write your story and someone reads it, you leave part of your burden on the page.
 
Storytelling applied to the practice of medicine is more than helpful. It is a healing process.
 
"Writing is medicine.
It is an appropriate antidote to injury.
It is an appropriate companion
for any difficult change."
~Julia Cameron~
 
jan
 
 
 
 


Sunday, November 18, 2018

listen up

 

 
Story telling isn’t easy. Even the best authors sometimes struggle to put their ideas into words. Characters are complicated and emotions can be hard to express. Ask any writer. 
 
"The difference between the right word
and almost the right word
is the difference between
lightning and a lightning bug."
~Mark Twain~

With this in mind, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that patients have trouble telling the stories of their illnesses. When they try to tell us about their symptoms, they may not have the language for it. The fellow having a heart attack may describe his pain as indigestion, when the doctor is looking for words like dull, heavy, or tight to describe the discomfort. The patient who is lightheaded may describe the feeling as dizziness rather that fainting. The provider then has to determine if the patient is experiencing presyncope or vertigo. The patient who complains about pain in his sinuses may be experiencing a migraine headache. Patients don’t know what we need to hear from them about their symptoms, so sometimes the obstacle is language.
 
"Write hard and clear
about what hurts."
~Ernest Hemingway~


Sometimes the problem is denial. The fellow having the heart attack may know exactly what is happening to him, but be so scared by the prospect he unconsciously tries to make a case for something less ominous. He describes his problem as indigestion, hoping the doctor will say, "It sounds like reflux. Nothing too serious."

Fear, then, is another confounding factor. When a patient describes a symptom, the provider has a long list of details he needs to know in order to diagnose the cause of the patient’s distress. However, the patient might be more frightened by the symptom than he is suffering from its severity. Perhaps a coworker recently suffered a disabling stroke. The patient is having some tingling in his right hand so he’s convinced he’s about to have a stroke, too. Carpal tunnel syndrome doesn’t cross his mind. The tingling isn’t severe, but his fear of having a stroke is off the charts. Once the doctor addresses the patient’s unfounded fears, treatment has a better chance of success.

It’s up to the provider to figure out what is what. This explains why health care providers must be excellent listeners. We have to make an accurate diagnosis by listening clinically, and we must understand how the illness affects the patient by listening empathetically.
 
"Listen. People start to heal
the moment they feel heard."
~Cheryl Richardson~
 
 
Listening clinically involves getting the details right. Encouraging the patient to tell us about the onset of his symptoms (sudden or gradual), the duration (hours, days, or months), the severity (mild or excruciating), and quality (sharp or dull, constant or intermittent, localized or generalized). A thorough and accurate history of the patient’s symptoms is fundamental to making an accurate diagnosis.

But there’s more to it than that. Empathetic listening enables us to understand how the illness affects the patient, what it means to him, and why. Why is he in denial? What is he afraid of? How will his illness affect his job, his family, his faith? It includes:


  • Reading facial expressions and body language. For instance, if the patient brings his fist to his chest when he is telling you about his heartburn, you need to think heart attack instead. It’s a classic gesture. 

  • Understanding the patient’s emotional state. I once had a young woman come in with a swollen black eye. She laughed it off. “I’m so clumsy,” she said. “I was jumping on the bed and hit my eye on the corner of the TV.” In fact, she had a blowout fracture of the floor of the orbit. When I asked her what really happened, she described the blow she took from her boyfriend’s fist, the fear she felt for her life. She not only needed medical care, she needed social services.
  • Listening between the lines for what the patient may be leaving out. I used to ask my teenage patients whether or not they were sexually active. Invariably, the answer was, “No.” That let me off the hook. I didn’t have to ask about STDs or contraceptive practices. It saved time…but I knew it wasn’t always true. So I started to ask instead, “How many sex partners have you had?” Eight, twelve, twenty-five! I was flabbergasted. But it enabled me to begin a meaningful discussion about body image and the patient's sense of self-respect. We went over the dangers of and prevention of STDs. And I was able to offer reliable contraception. 
What difference does empathetic listening make? It gets us closer to the truth. It connects us with our patients in a meaningful way. It improves patient satisfaction and that by itself helps promote healing. It enhances diagnostic accuracy and the efficacy of treatment. It decreases the physician’s sense of frustration and ineffectiveness. And by strengthening the physician-patient bond, it decreases the rate of physician burnout.

If good storytelling is an art, effective listening is a craft. In these efforts the physician-patient partnership is forged. Health care becomes a mutual endeavor, and everyone benefits from it.
 
"You are so brave and quiet
I forget you are suffering."
~Ernest Hemingway~
jan




Sunday, November 11, 2018

mopping up blood and patching up people

 

 
 
We have witnessed not one, but two, mass shootings  in the past few weeks. This should serve to remind us of the critical role our first responders, ER docs, and trauma surgeons, along with the nurses and technicians who support them, play all across our country. Their work is laudable not only because their courage and skill can mean the difference between life and death for victims of gun violence...but because it transcends race, religion, culture, and gender. And it never stops.
 
"Nothing good
ever comes from violence."
~Martin Luther~
 

The problem of gun violence in America is not new. When I was in junior high school, a shy, awkward girl in my 7th grade class picked up her father's hand gun and shot herself in the head. A boy who lived up the road from us died when the rifle he was cleaning accidentally discharged. In the city, a child died in the crossfire between rival gangs.
 
In the aftermath of the recent mass shootings--one in Pennsylvania and one in California--the AMA has again called upon physicians to take a stand against gun violence, calling it a "public health crisis" for good reason. On average, over 30,000 US citizens die in gun-related incidents each year. Many more remain injured or disabled in the aftermath of such shootings.
 
If a new virus popped up and took 30,000 lives in less than a year, you can bet public health officials would declare it a crisis...and then do something about it. Epidemiologists would jump in to examine modes and patterns of transmission. Researchers would swing into action to develop anti-viral drugs to treat the infection, and a new vaccine to prevent its spread.
 

 
Not so with gun violence. We are still just mopping up blood and patching up victims. By then, it's too late.
 
So, what about prevention? What can we, as primary care providers, do?
 
"On behalf of the gun industry,
the NRA appreciates America's
continued silence on
meaningful gun legislation."
~quotesgram~

 
The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests we ask about firearm safety as part of the clinical encounter. To raise awareness of the dangers inherent in firearm possession, and to educate parents and children about gun safety. Are there guns in the home? Where are they kept? How are they stored? It is hoped that these reminders will prompt parents to double check on safe gun practices in their own homes.
 
If this sounds easy enough, let me assure you, it is not. Years ago, when I addressed this issue as part of one well-child exam, my young patient's mother became irate. She insisted it was absolutely none of my business and had nothing at all to do with his health care. She reported me to management. This, when just weeks earlier, a child in our community died after a sibling accidentally fired a gun he found in the home.
 
"The safety of the people
shall be the highest law."
~Marcus Tullius Cicero~
 

It takes enormous courage and skill to care for the victims of gun violence in our country. It requires sensitivity and determination just to talk about it.

 jan
 
 



Tuesday, November 6, 2018

be careful what you click on

 
 

 
Random rant:
 
Last week I presented to a specialist as a new patient. I had to see him because of the potential toxicity of a drug I've been taking for years. I was lucky enough to have snagged an appointment right away. Unfortunately, that meant I had to fill out all the necessary paperwork when I arrived at the office--demographics, insurance information, and medical history.
 
"What the world really needs
is more love
and less paperwork."
~Pearl Bailey~ 
 
Before I even started, I was called back to the exam room...meaning the medical assistant had to run through my information and get it into the EMR before the doctor came in. It all went smoothly until she asked me how long I'd been taking said toxic medication:
 
MA:  What year did you start taking it?
Me:   I really don't remember. I've been on and off it a couple of times over the years.
MA:  But when did you first take it?
Me:   I have no idea. I'd be guessing. Maybe twenty years ago.
MA:  And when did you go off it?
Me:   (sounding just a tad exasperated) I don't remember. I don't know. I went off and then back on it several times.
MA:  But I need a date. I can't go on without the date. At least, the year.
Me:  (Thinking, so I should just make something up for you? Fabricate a date? OK, then...) Let's pretend I started taking it in 1987. (I could have said 1887 and she probably would have been satisfied...)
MA:  OK, good.
 
This may sound like an inconsequential issue to some of you...but this is the kind of thing that can lead to falsification of the medical record...inaccuracies that are prompted by a computer program. Permitted by it. Even encouraged by it.
 
"Without strong safeguards, the dream of
electronic health information networks
could turn into a nightmare
for consumers."
~Edward J Markey~

 
This isn't the first time something like this has happened to me. My own medical record includes a preop exam that states my neurological exam was normal...when it wasn't checked at all. Thankfully, I didn't have a seizure or a stroke during the procedure. How would they explain that?
 
The point is that inaccuracies in the medical record can spell disaster for a provider who is involved in a malpractice claim. Attorneys are going to question you about the details of the neurological exam you recorded but failed to perform, or the cardiac exam you said was normal even though the patient has a known mitral valve prolapse. Casting doubt on your reliability. Errors can mislead consultants and other health care providers. The patient may suffer. 
"We should all be aware
--even alarmed--
about the gaps in critical information
that may exist in any patient's
computerized medical record."
~Linda Harlzberg, MD~


Be careful about what you click on in your EMR.
 
"We strive for error-free medicine
in a world that is sometimes
all too human."
~Michael C Burgess~
 
jan
 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 


Sunday, October 28, 2018

o, what an untold world

 


These are a few of the friends I spent my day with today. I've known them for years so, over time, they've shared their stories with me.:

  • A woman whose younger brother died in her arms when she was sixteen years old after a drunk driver broadsided the car she was driving. Years later, her infant daughter started to miss developmental milestones and began to exhibit autistic behaviors, rocking and repetitive head-banging. The doctors diagnosed her with Pervasive Developmental Disorder, and later, when she started kindergarten, with Autistic Spectrum Disorder. She didn’t speak until she turned six. As if that weren't enough, at the age of forty, this woman developed pain and swelling in her right breast. She couldn’t imagine how she might have bruised herself there. Two days after she saw her doctor about it she underwent an urgent breast biopsy. She prayed for the reports to be negative because she still had three children at home, one of them with special needs. But the biopsy was positive for breast cancer. The doctors cautioned her not to get her hopes up. “Go home,” they told her. “Think about how you want to say goodbye.”
 
"Out of suffering have emerged
the strongest souls."
~Kahlil Gibran~

  • A woman whose father abandoned the family when she was just a child. When she finally tracked him down years later, he agreed to meet with her, but she never got to see him alive. He died unexpectedly of a massive heart attack just days before they planned to reunite. 

  • A nurse whose son died of leukemia when he was twelve years old.
"The practice of medicine is an art, not a trade.
A calling, not a business.
A calling in which your heart
will be exercised equally
with your mind."
~Sir William Osler~

  • A young man who was involved in a car crash when he was in high school. He suffered a brain injury so severe the doctors didn’t think he would survive. He spent weeks in a coma in the intensive care unit until he was transferred to an in-patient rehab facility where the doctors thought he would remain until he died. Weeks after the accident, even though it violated the hospital's rules, his family smuggled the boy's dog into his room. Three days later, he opened his eyes, and went on to complete a full recovery.
"Dog is God spelled backward."
~Duane Chapman~

I wasn't making rounds at the hospital today. I wasn't attending a medical conference. I started off this morning at a spiritual retreat. On the way home, I stopped off for coffee. Then I went to the grocery store. Proof that we encounter people every day whose stories we may never get to hear. We pass them on the street or in the store. We invite them along for a cup of coffee. We work with them every day. There is nothing unusual about the way they dress, nothing peculiar about they way they speak, nothing strange about their beliefs that would set them apart from all the rest of us.

But until we know their stories, we don't know them.
 
"O, what an untold world there is
in one human heart."
~Harriet Beecher Stowe~
 
jan
 







Monday, October 15, 2018

are you a superhero?


 
 
True story:
 
It happened again today. I was in the grocery store when one of my patients from way-back-when rushed up to say hello. She went on to tell me how much she missed me as her doctor, and then she told me her story. She had recently visited our office for some minor problem that had nothing to do with her heart. In fact, she didn't know she even had a heart condition. But then, out of nowhere, she suffered a major heart attack while she was in the bathroom. She was rushed to the hospital where she underwent surgery that saved her life.
 
She couldn't say enough about how grateful she was for the care she received...immediate, thorough, and skilled. Also, compassionate and caring. She still couldn't get over how lucky she felt to have been in the right place at the right time. I told her it wasn't the first time that something had happened in our practice. One patient collapsed in the parking lot as he was getting out of his car...and lived to tell the story. Another time, a patient's heart stopped beating as I was taking his pulse.
 
 
Another patient was complaining of indigestion when, in fact, he was experiencing a heart attack in evolution.
 
"Having a heart attack felt
nothing like I how
I thought it would feel."
~www.myheartsisters.org~
 

The point is that, as health care providers, we take incidents like these in stride, while our patients literally take them to heart. It's gratifying to be able to help, but we don't see ourselves as heroes or gods. Patients sometimes do, though.
 
If you don't think of yourself as a superhero, think back. Whose life did you save? How did it happen? How does it make you feel? Tell us the story.
 
"You are braver than you believe,
stronger than you seem,
and smarter than you think."
~Winnie the Pooh~
 
jan

 
 
 
 
 



Sunday, September 30, 2018

get something down...anything


 
 
I've been posting a lot about the importance of telling your story...the one that needs to be told, the one that won't go away, the story others need to hear. But have I mentioned how hard this can be to do? Have I told you how hard it is to get started? How long it can take? How confusing it can be?
 
"If I'm gonna tell a real story,
I'm gonna start with my name."
~Kendrick Lamar~
 
The story I need to write has been nagging at me for over 65 years...since I was three years old. That's when my brother and I both went into the same hospital with the same illness at the same time. The story explores the divergent paths we took through life in the aftermath of our shared experience. And how long it took to share our separate truths.
 
It begins:
          "The aftermath of childhood illness can linger for a lifetime. You think you’re over it when, out of nowhere, you remember the way the nurse rolled you onto your side and bared your little buttocks. First came the jab, then the dull ache that lasted until the next shot was due. One moment you’re a fully functioning adult. The next, you’re a sobbing three-year old.
          Like a stain that won’t come out, like a fog that never lifts, it stays with you. It can send you down a path you never intended to follow. It has the power to transform you into someone you never wanted to be. The memory of it catapults you back to a time you'd rather forget."
I started working on this project in earnest six years ago. This is as far as I've gotten. The details are vivid in my mind, the story arc is clear, and I already know how it ends. What, then, is so difficult about it?
 
I think the hardest part is convincing yourself that your story is worth telling. And after that, engaging the reader. Convincing him that your story is also his. Compelling him to read on in order to make sense of his experience in light of yours. Finding meaning not so much in the recitation of events, but in their cause and effect, in your process and outcomes, in the truth you summoned the courage to share.
 

"When you stand and share your story...
your story will heal you
and your story will heal somebody else."
~Iyanla Vanzant~
 
 
For reasons that will take a full-length book to explore, my brother spent most his adult life battling the anxiety, fear, shame, and insecurity that followed his hospitalization, as well as the addictions that helped him cope. His story is an epic quest for healing.
 
I went on to study medicine.
 
If you are mystified by the way your life unfolded as it did, if you have spent sleepless nights reflecting on the people, places, and circumstances that shaped you as a human being, if you have ever wished things had been different, you have an important story to tell.
 
"Other people are going to find
healing in your wounds.
Your greatest life messages
and your most effective ministry
will come out of your deepest hurts."
~Rick Warren~
 
If you are discouraged about telling your story because you don't know where to begin, start by writing something. Anything. Start with your name.
jan
 
 
 


 
 
 
 
 


Sunday, September 23, 2018

a story that needs to be written



This week I'm dog-sitting for these two gentle giants:


 
 
It's pouring outside, and it's chilly...a good day to curl up on the couch between two big dogs with my third mug of coffee while I share the wisdom of some brilliant writers and caring physicians. 
 
Sometimes we need to be reminded that medicine embraces both science and the humanities. It requires factual knowledge and technical expertise, but first and foremost, it depends on our relationship with the patient. A healthy doctor-patient relationship (no pun intended) is built upon mutual respect, trust, compassion, and intimacy...physical, emotional, and psychological. The healer must know the patient. The patient cannot be separated from his story.
 
There is a softer side to medicine than what can be delivered by a laser or through an endoscope. There is more to healing than what can be achieved by the latest innovation in drug therapy. There is more to the patient than what can be checked off on a bulleted EMR. The study of narrative medicine involves training in techniques that enable the provider to elicit, process, and respond to patients' concerns. It encourages healers to explore the patient's whole story. It requires patients to become storytellers, themselves.
 
In other words:
 
"It may take a doctor
to diagnose someone's disease,
but it takes a friend
to recognize someone's suffering."
~unknown~
 
"The good physician treats the disease;
the great physician treats
the patient who has the disease."
~Sir William Osler~
 
"Writing and humanities studies produce better physicians...
because doctors learn to coax hidden information
from patients' complaints."
~Rita Charon~
 
"Stories are not material to be analyzed;
they are relationships to be entered."
~A.W. Frank~
 
"Write hard and clear about what hurts."
~Ernest Hemingway~
 
"Every patient you see
is a lesson in much more
than the malady from which he suffers."
~Sir William Osler~
 
"Wherever the art of medicine is loved,
there is also a love of humanity."
~Hippocrates~
 
"It has become appallingly obvious
that our technology has exceeded our humanity."
~Albert Einstein~
 
"Dancing, singing, storytelling and silence
are the four universal healing salves."
~Gabrielle Roth~
 
"Writing is medicine.
It is an appropriate anecdote to injury.
It is an appropriate companion
for any difficult change."
~Julia Cameron~
 
 
My coffee mug is empty. The rain has stopped for now so it's time for us to stretch our legs. I plan to spend the rest of this week working on the opening pages of a memoir that needs to be written. Wish me luck.

"If a story is in you,
it has got to come out."
~William Faulkner~
jan