Christmas eve

Imagine that tonight is Christmas eve. 

Outside, the sun is setting under a sky that could pass for cotton candy.The air is frigid but still. The street is busy with people hurrying home to begin celebrating the holiday. You, yourself, are looking forward to getting home to a crackling fire on the hearth and a traditional Christmas eve meal. The kids are home from college. Their gifts are wrapped and piled under the tree. You breathe a sigh of relief and gratitude.

"I will honor Christmas in my heart

and try to keep it all the year."

~Charles Dickens~

It was a busy day. Among the patients you admitted through the emergency room were a child with asthma complicated by fever and pneumonia, an elderly gentleman who fractured his hip when he slipped on the ice outside his garage, an OD, and an out-of-state trucker with chest pain and an abnormal EKG. Orders have been written, tests scheduled, and rounds finished. Your patients are settled for the night. Your job for the day is done. It’s time to go home.

Except that part of you never goes home.

You can't forget the expression on the child’s face when he learned he would be spending Christmas in the hospital. He’d asked for a blue bicycle and he couldn’t stop crying because he wouldn’t be there to get it…and he wasn’t well enough to ride it, anyway.

You recall discussing her husband’s injury with the elderly man’s wife. She would be alone for Christmas now, and for weeks to follow. She couldn’t imagine how she would manage by herself.

The OD was not accidental. You are reminded of the most recent studies debunking the long-perpetuated myth that suicide rates peak around the holidays. In fact, suicides reach a statistical nadir in December. Still, opioid contamination keeps no schedule and leaves no clues. It will be a long vigil for this victim’s family overnight.

You learn that the trucker’s family is stuck at Chicago’s O’Hare International Airport because of blizzard conditions. They wonder if he will survive this latest heart attack. Will they get there in time?

It’s Christmas eve. You get to go home. Your patients don’t.

"When you're sick, 

it's nice to know there are people

who await your recovery

as they might a holiday."

~Anton Chekhov~

This is a bi-polar time of the year, a time that highlights the irreconcilable discrepancies, emotional extremes, and divergent realities that prevent some people from celebrating the spirit of the holidays. There is poverty in contrast to wealth, sorrow instead of joy, cruelty as opposed to compassion, and of course, illness instead of health.

For those of us in the medical field who are taking our patients’ medical histories, exploring their symptoms, and fielding their pain when the rest of the world is celebrating joy and peace, it is a bittersweet season. Many of our patients will experience pain rather than comfort, grief instead gratitude, anger as opposed to joy, and anguish instead of peace. It won’t be merry or bright at all. They will be stuck with it…and in many ways, so will we.

"Illness is the night-side of life,

A more onerous citizenship.

Everyone who is born holds dual citizenship

in the kingdom of the well

and in the kingdom of the sick."

~Susan Sontag~

If Christmas eve with your family is happy, loving, and peaceful, I wish you a merry one.

If not, I wish you hope. Courage. Friendship. Beauty. Time. Snow if you like it…sunshine if you don’t.

Dickens could have been describing Christmas eve when he wrote in “A Tale of Two Cities":

"It was the best of times,

it was the worst of times...

it was the season of light,

it was the season of darkness,

it was the spring of hope,

it was the winter of despair."

It was Christmas eve.

jan