Monday, May 22, 2017

off topic...but not really


 
A friend of mine recently returned from a trip to Machu Picchu, one of the “new” seven wonders of the world. In my humble opinion, the self-proclaimed experts who, back in 2000, voted to rename the Seven Wonders of the World, missed the point. They were looking at manmade monuments and structures of lasting beauty and grandeur while overlooking what I believe to be the Seven True Wonders of the World. I was reminded of them last week with the arrival of my newest grandson. This is what was so extraordinary about it:

Ovulation
Fertilization
Implantation
Gestation
Labor
Delivery
Oh, and sex…where it all begins.
When you consider all the changes the body has to orchestrate flawlessly in order for a healthy baby to enter the world—the timing of the hormonal and anatomical changes, the electrochemical shifts, the first breath—it astounds me that it ever goes according to plan. So much can go wrong…and often does. If you want to hear inspiring stories…as well as sometimes tragic stories…listen to a group of women sharing their birth experience.
“The mind of a woman in labor
is power unestimated."
~www.thejoyofthis.com~
They will tell you how excruciating pain leads to immense joy…or, when the process fails, to deepest sorrow. They will describe fear, even panic, at the slightest suggestion of trouble. They may reflect back on how hard it was to get pregnant…or how easy or even unexpected it was. How they learned the meaning of longing and of love.

“Story is the umbilical cord
that connects us to the past, present, and future…
Storytelling is an affirmation of our ties
to one another.”
~Terry Tempest Williams~
 
There is nothing new in the history of childbirth, but there are an infinite number of unique stories about it. Birth narratives are packed with sensory and emotional detail, victory and defeat, courage and cowardice, mystery and manifestation. Each story is epic in scope…part fantasy, part mystery, part thriller, part love story. Something for everyone.
Every birth is a wonder to behold.

“There are no seven wonders of the world…
There are seven million.”
~Walt Streightiff~
jan

 

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

ten reasons to join a writing group...or start one

 
 
 
Here are ten good reasons you might be interested in joining a narrative medicine writing group:
1.      You are a health care provider or a therapist in any field. You have been a patient at some point in your life, or you know someone who is. Trust me: you have plenty to write about.
 
“Anybody who has survived his childhood
has enough information about life
to last him the rest of his days.”
~Flannery O’Connor~
 
2.      People keep telling you, “You really should write a book…” because of all you have endured and overcome, or because of your special expertise, or exceptional courage, or unique perspective.
3.      You keep telling yourself, “But I’m not a writer,” even though there’s a story chiseling a hole in your heart…something that caused such sorrow, or anger, or despair you can’t bear to revisit it, or such relief, or gratitude, or inspiration you can’t imagine how you would put it into words.
 
“There is no greater agony
than bearing an untold story
inside of you.”
~Maya Angelou~
 
4.      You keep telling yourself, “I wouldn’t know where to begin,” even though you’ve been over the details in your mind a thousand times.
5.      You keep telling yourself, “My life (or work or experience…) is so ordinary, I have nothing interesting to say, nothing new to add, nothing helpful to share.”
 
“Write what disturbs you, what you fear,
what you have not been willing to speak about.
Be willing to be split open.”
~Natalie Goldberg~
 
6.      You like to write, but convince yourself you’re not good enough at spelling, grammar, or punctuation to share what you have written.
 
“If you hear a voice within you saying:
you are not a painter,
then paint by all means, lad,
and that voice will be silenced…”
~Van Gogh~
 
   The same can be said for writing.
7.      You think you’re too busy. (You’re not.)
8.      You’re afraid you’ll offend someone if you write the truth…the surgeon who botched your operation, or your uncle who abused you as a child, or the colleague you don’t trust.
 
“All you have to do
is write one true sentence.
Write the truest sentence you know.”
~Ernest Hemingway~
 
9.      As a patient, you sometimes feel like giving up. If you’re a provider, you sometimes feel like quitting.
10.  You harbor questions you can’t answer…doubts that won’t go away…pain that nothing can heal.
 
“While medicine creates material for writing,
perhaps even more important is that
it also creates a psychological and emotional
need to write.”
~Daniel Mason~
  
If you’re still not sure writing is for you, I’d like to recommend a couple of good books for beginning writers, especially those who are reluctant to get started:
·         The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
·         If you Want to Write by Brenda Ueland
·         Writing from the Heart by Nancy Aronie
If you’re interested but can’t find a narrative medicine writing group near you…think about starting one.
jan